Don’t waste your time, trying to impress someone who doesn’t care about you. Don’t waste your time, loving someone who doesn’t care where you lay your head at night. Don’t give up sleep for a fella who doesn’t return your call even when you leave a message. Don’t go into a relationship trying to fix your partner. Get out of an abusive relationship.

Life’s too short to waste on one person, don’t be fooled . Beauty is deceptive and love might not seem attractive at first sight . in all your dealings with people go after those who make you feel special , those who make you feel on top of the world. Those who care to say goodnight, how was your day, do you need my help, can I pray for you and those who say I love you from the bottom of their hearts.

Many times we have perceptions and fantasies of the perfect guy or trophy girlfriend, and we get so blinded in our lust that we don’t see when true love comes around. True love never hurts, never cheats, always listens and is ready to forgive. Love is more than a feeling, its more than sex. Love is not a phrase but it’s a verb an action , a commitment, an unending loyalty.

Don’t love a face because , it might be fake.
Don’t love a body because, we all will grow old.
Don’t love money, because money can never buy happiness.
Love isn’t cheap, and the only way to buy love is too show love.

Friends are what life is all about.
Friends are those whose victories are your pride, and their failures your burden.
We can’t force a friendship
We can’t force people to like us
We can only work with those around us.

By myself I’ll write a poem, with you I’ll write a book.
By myself I’ll play the drums with you, I’ll be an orchestra.
By myself I’ll be alone, with you I’ll make a family.
True love starts as friendship and there’s no such thing as love at first sight.

Never underestimate the power of a smile, a hug, a kiss and a thank you, these little act of kindness are the foundations of friendship and they can fetch you true love.

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Change, Oh how I love to change
How I love to put my sins behind me and start all over again
Alas I find myself, swimming in a pool of despair
Regretting my mistakes and promising myself and my lord never to do it again
But yet I keep doing the same thing over and over.
Sometimes I wonder if God still listens to my prayers because he’s heard me say
I’m sorry more than a million times.
Change is more than a phrase we say, a wish, or something to hope for.
Change is a verb , an action. a call to order.
Change is a complete turnaround from something you detest to something you like.
To change is to carefully examine one’s self, emotions, character and personality.
To change we must ask ourselves,
when am I most vulnerable to my weakness?
what triggers the worst in me?
To change is to accept one’s failures without looking down on one’s self,
And prayerfully commit everything to God,
because no matter how hard we try to change
We will always fail if we don’t depend on God to change us.
Change starts with hope,
Hope that we can turn our lives around and make things work.
Hope that we can quit our addictions, change our lifestyles , love more, pray more, study more and give more.
To change is painful process ,
sometimes it requires closing our eyes to things we love,
shunning friends who make us do the wrong things,
staying up all night to understanding a concept,
humbling or selves to ask for help and saying no to our stomach when it craves things we shouldn’t be eating.
To change we must be ready to fight, because it’s a battle between who we are and who we want to be.
Change is not something you do alone,
You need friends that can help you, when you get weary of trying.
And a God who is able to do immeasurably more than you can imagine.
Change takes time, it might not come in a day, a month or in a year,
The way to measure change is not by gauging perfect, but it’s in observing continuous progress
each and every day, no matter how small they are.

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21 things I’ve learnt in 21 years pt1

In a few hours I’ll officially be an adult and it’s safe to say I’ve learnt some incredible lessons in my short time on earth.
Here are some lessons I’ve learnt in my 21 years of existence.

1. You can have fun without putting yourself at risk (drinking and getting high). My definition of partying is having a relaxed time with friends and, bowling, karaoke, movies, attending a game etc.

2. Life’s all about people, you need people to achieve your goal and aspirations.

3. people will treat you based on how you carry yourself.

4. There’s always time.
One of the most common phrases you hear people say is “there’s is no time” or I’m too busy. Do you know one thing you share in common with Barack Obama, Steve Jobs and Bill Gates , you have 24hrs a day.

5. There’s no such thing as time management, but there’s definitely something called self management.
how can u manage something you don’t have control of, life’s short:
24hrs a day,7days a week.

6. Friends are important, but some friends are for a season.
Don’t feel too bad when a friend leaves you or if you don’t feel too comfortable around an old friend. Like clothes we outgrow our friends when our beliefs and circumstances change. if a friend leaves it probably means both of you now have different beliefs.

7. Stop talking, start doing. The grave has the largest deposit of talents and ideas.

8. If you fail, try, try, and try again. Don’t let anyone or anything stop you from achieving something you believe in.

9. Christianity isn’t a set of do’s and don’ts that God wants you to obey, the bible contains principles that if followed will make your life so much better. Can you imagine a world in which we loved our neighbors as ourselves, there will be no wars, no crimes, no fraud only friends.

10. We would never comprehend God.
I find it very hilarious when scientists and clergy people debate whether God exists and how he operates.
A lot of times we try and explain God through our own understanding,
we assume he thinks and acts like us, the truth is we are his creation, just a figment of his imagination. Can clay understand the decisions of a potter, food the decision of the chef, painting the ingenuity of the artist?

11. Appreciate leaders.
It’s very easy to criticize leaders and spot out mistakes they make in their decisions. Have you ever wondered how difficult the job of a president, governor, religious leader, or father is?
leaders are humans like us, they have 24hours like we have, they have families, friends, hobbies and problems, yet they take the time out to take care of others.

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21 things I’ve learnt in 21 years pt2

Here’s the rest of the lessons I shared in my previous post.

12. Happiness is a state of mind and like all things it takes practice.
Take the time out to smile at someone, laugh, act the fool (sometimes). Like the joker said, “why so serious?”

13. Relationships…
My dad once told me, relationships are like oranges, if you eat an unripe one it sets your teeth on edge and you’ll regret it. However if you wait for it to ripen, you’ll enjoy every bit of it.
Don’t jump into a relationship to feel special or secure,
Embrace who you are and develop your self esteem.
Relationships work when both parties have a mutual goal and a destination.

14. Emotions
Do the right thing even when you don’t feel like it.
Don’t let your emotions control you, instead control your emotions. You’re the boss you know!!

15. You need a partner
it’s easy to set goals, but its very hard to keep them when no one is watching.
The best way to achieve a goal is to find people who will hold you accountable.
That’s why the bible said “he who finds a wife finds a good thing”.

16. Consistency.
Do you know what differentiates Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant, from other ball players?
They’re consistent at what they do. Being successful doesn’t mean you win every time, it means you give it your best shot every time, no matter what happens.

17. Nothing is permanent
If life brings success, celebrate
If failure, ask what did I do wrong
If life brings love, embrace it
If hate, don’t retaliate.
If life brings life rejoice
If death, cry.
whatever life throws at you make the best of it, because it’s only for a while.

18. Spontaneity
The best things that have happened to me weren’t things I planned,
in fact they are things I had no idea they were coming.
Its easy to get disappointment when you try and plan everything, especially when you like someone. let things flow, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

19. Be different
Standout, let your voice be heard, try something different,
if your guts don’t agree with what everyone is doing, don’t be afraid to say no.
Before I used to feel weird and out of place when I didn’t enjoy what everyone else was doing. I have come to embrace who I am and understand that I’m different, special, unique and definitely not your average guy.

20. Appreciation
There are two kinds of friends you have, those that appreciate you and those who don’t. Don’t try to impress someone who doesn’t appreciate you, someone who takes days to return your calls and messages, people who don’t care to show up for events that are important to you. Those aren’t the kind of people you worry about.
Tip: your true friends are the ones you feel most special around, those who encourage and help you to grow.

21. Influence
I bet you’ve heard the phrase ” show me your friends and I tell you who you are”, here’s my version ” show me your friends and I’ll tell you how successful you’ll become. People argue that they can’t be influenced by their friends, although this may be true, the people you spend most of your time with will determine how successful you become. If all you do with your friends is talk about other people and what they are doing, no one will ever talk about you.

Published in: on January 15, 2011 at 8:26 pm  Leave a Comment  
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The art of praying

Of recent my prayers have become routine and redundant, i say one in the morning when i get up, and one at night before i go to bed. I prayed the same prayer in the morning and at night. It didn’t take me long to realize my prayers were becoming ineffective.

Here are 5 ideas i’m using to make my prayers more meaningful, i hope you find them useful.

1. Pray before you start.
Have you ever been in a situation where you try all you can possibly do, but you can’t find a solution, just when you plan on giving up, you say a small prayer and voila the solution pops into your head at 4G speeds.
A lot of times we use prayers as a last resort, however imagine if you prayed before tackling the same problem, you would have saved a lot of time and frustration.

2. Prepare.
Imagine you want a raise at work, do you just walk into your boss’s office and say “hey dude I need a raise”. Instead you prepare your pitch, make sure you’re he’s in a good mood and then you approach him cautiously.
A lot of times we reserve our prayers as the last itinerary on our schedule before going to bed, by that time we’re completely tired and we can barely put two sentences of prayers together.
Praying should be a deliberate action, we should set specific times for prayers and ensure we are far away from distractions.

3. Make a list.
It’s so easy to forget the important things when we pray, most times I find myself praying the same prayers every day. It’s like going to the grocery store without a list, you end up buying things you didn’t budget for and you forget the things you needed to buy.

Before Praying take the time out to think of what you want to pray about, ask the Holy spirit to guide you in your selection ,and then write a list of everything you want to ask for.

4. Reference.
The Bible is filled with many promises. Whenever we pray, we should always find a verse in the bible that is related to what we’re praying about. By doing so we hold God accountable to his word.
like a father, God has promised us so many things, it’s our duty to remind him of his promises and hold him accountable to them.

5. PUSH.
Not all prayers will be answered instantaneously, sometimes it takes days, weeks, months or even years. However that doesn’t mean we should stop praying, as children whenever we asked our parents for something we wanted like a toy, we didn’t just ask once, we kept asking until we finally got what we wanted. I don’t know where I read this , but someone once wrote “ Pray Until Something Happens”, I’ll suggest you do the same.

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A word for Today (Jan 5th 2011)

I read this piece in my devotional this morning and i thot to share it with you.

Don’t Miss God’s Answer
Is anything too hard for the LORD? No! —Gen_18:14
The God of surprises strikes again… God does that for the faithful. J
ust when the womb gets too old for babies, Sarai gets pregnant.
Just when the failure is too great for grace, David is pardoned…
The lesson? Three words. Don’t give up…
Is the road long? Don’t stop.
Is the night black? Don’t quit.
God is watching. For all you know right at this moment … the check may be in the mail.
The apology may be in the making.
The job contract may be on the desk.
Don’t quit. For if you do, you may miss the answer to your prayers.

Text gotten from Max Lucado

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11 Advices for 2011

At the begin of each year, most of us look back at the
previous year and we want to become better people. We make new year
resolutions to break a bad habit or to attain a goal.Resolutions
are hard to keep, but these 11 ideas , if considered daily will
make 2011 a blast.

1. Don’t make resolutions, instead set daily goals you can follow through and accomplish.

2. Pray about all things, especially before you make big decisions.
Life isn’t a game of chances, we’re all here for a purpose and we should seek the
direction of our creator before we make decisions such as career,relationships, business ventures…

3. Be vulnerable, good things won’t happen to you unless let them.
It’s ok to love, cry, be happy, angry,or jealous. Don’t just be a friend, let others
befriend you, find someone who you can trust with all your secrets and deepest fears.

4. Be excellent in all things, at work, school, in your health, your appearance, speech and diction. Do you see a man diligent in his ways, he will stand before kings not mere men.

5. Take good care of yourself. Sleep at least 6 hours, try and take a mid day nap, eat well, keep in shape, be good to your body. Your body is a machine, like your car it needs regular maintenance.

6. Find a need and feel it, by doing so you will amass great wealth and personal satisfaction. What would the world be like without computers, advance medicine, Internet, automobiles and charities?
Your idea might just be the next big thing.

7. Give, yourself, your time, your money, your skills. Be a light in the lives of others,
be the reason behind someone’s smile.

8. Be disciplined, talent and skill don’t guarantee success. Discipline + hard work +skill+
talent = Success.

9. Invest in yourself, become genius at something you love doing.

10. Enjoy yourself , what’s the purpose of our labor and education if we cannot take the time to enjoy the little pleasures life has to offer?

11. Invest your money, don’t just spend, let your money work for you.

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